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Five simple ways to take care of your Baby Skin!

Motherhood brings joy and happiness in the life of a woman, but along with brings certain fears and apprehensions too. Almost every woman who turns out to be a first time mom, has deep within herself a fear “whether she will be able to take care of her little one all by herself”. Will she be able to hold her and take care of the delicate little angel?

When I became Mom three years ago, I too had such feelings and fear deep within myself. I still remember the day when I held my little one in my arms for the first time, my reaction was “Aww! He is so cute and delicate”. His skin were the softest thing I have ever touched. Babies skin are very sensitive and soft, hence needs utmost care to keep it supple and safe.

Here are the five basic ritual which I followed to keep my baby’s skin soft and smooth:

  • Massage your baby: There are many benefits of massage as it adds flexibility to the body, strengthen bones, develop bonding and makes baby skin soft and supple. The best time to massage your baby is post bath as his skin is hydrated and absorbs the oil or cream properly. It also helps baby to have relaxed sleep and develop better.
  • Use toiletries meant for Baby skin: As you know that skin of baby is completely different from an adult skin and so are the toiletries to be used for them. Make sure that the soaps, shampoos, cream, oils, cleanser, whatever you are using on your little ones are chemical free and safe to use.
  • Be careful of fabrics you use for your baby: Have you ever experienced irritation while you put on clothes such as silk, thick layered clothes during hot and humid season. So just think when you cannot sustain such clothes, how will your delicate little one can. His skin is too delicate and hence you need to “Handle it with Care“! Buy clothes according to season like cottons, muslin cloth which are soft and good to use. Also be sure to use soft wool based woollens when its cold. Make sure whatever you are using on your baby skin for the first time is washed, dried and then used to avoid any bacterial infections.
  • Be vigilant while buying Diaper’s: I feel diaper are one of the best invention done in today’s modern world. We mothers have all liberty to go anywhere round the world without worrying about hygienic toilets. But merely buying diapers of any brand don’t help. Do proper research and decide which brand is suiting your baby’s skin and keeping his skin soft for hours. Generally, a diaper on being wet should not turn hard and should generally remain dry for minimum three to four hours. I have used some brands before putting my little one in Pampers diaper. Pampers brings you the softest ever Pampers Premium Care Pants. Its cotton-like softness is #SoftestForBabySkin and allows it to breathe, thus keeping baby’s skin soft and healthy, and your baby happy.  Also, make sure when you diaper your baby,  you pat dry your baby skin with dry cloth and apply diaper rash cream regularly which prevents diaper rash and will keep his skin soft and supple.
  • Clean and dry all baby skin folds: A new born baby has the most delicate skin and has many folds around his skin. Make sure that you dry and powder his skin properly such as areas behind the ears, creases of his neck, gential area, folds around his legs, so that there is no moisture retention due to hot and humid temperatures. It will help to keep his skin free from infections and rashes.

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Do note that, it is not easy to keep baby skin soft and beautiful as it seems so. A religious routine of above steps will ensure healthy and happy little one. I am till date maintaining this routine with slight changes as my little one is a toddler now, but still his skin is soft and safe.

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Is your chatterbox kid driving you nuts?

I still remember how I reacted when my friend was cribbing on how difficult it is to handle a chatterbox kid. She was so annoyed that she used to loose her mind on her quite often. My expression on her situation was: Come on!! How can you not like her talking? She is so sweet and adorable that I can just keep listening and talking to her. She warned me not to say so and said “Be blessed if you won’t have such a kid“.

This conversation happened years before but came live into my head when am too in same situation. I can now understand and co-relate her agony and feelings. My brat’s conversation is constant, irrespective someone is talking to him or not. It’s like a live feed going on radio what’s happening around. He starts soon as he wakes up and would not stop till he dozes off. I wonder where from he brings so many things to talk about.

I just love his non stop ‘momma’ ‘momma’ and  love listening it. But as said “Excess of anything is bad“. His voice is so much into me that even when he is sleeping I still feel his voice into my mind!! Whenever I explain my situation to someone every one pity me but this don’t help me either.

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Worried how to handle this situation, I did some research and found out few ways which worked for me:

  • Appreciate his Imagination: Kids imaginary thoughts tempt them to think and ask questions. I wondered how fast are they in their imagination. He actually asks me ten questions in a minute. I feel being on a rapid fire question round, in which as soon as I answer one question another pops up. Why, How, When, Where, What are their favorite words. I used to get frustrated with his babbling and it made the situation worse as he was tempted to ask me more. I then realized that talking to him patiently and listening to him made him calm and satisfied.
  • Encourage them to talk with same age friends: We all love talking to people of our age isn’t it. Its true for kids too. I have not known this fact till some day back, I listened to conversation between my brat and his school friend. These two little boys were chatting over the phone and not in person. I was amazed how well can these three year old kiddo talk among themselves. He was so happy talking to him that for sometime he was in his own world.
  • Encourage solo play at home: My brat always wants me to play with him whenever I am around. His non stop talks and playing whole day with him drives me crazy. Trying to figure out ways to indulge him in activities I let him take his toys such as blocks, puzzles, story books, drawing books, crayons all by himself. Surely a mess is created at home but it keeps him busy and mom happy. Smiling momma in me thinking: “NO PAIN NO GAIN“!!
  • Try to make him/her creative: My brat loves to draw and play with colorful dough. I thus make sure that I have enough stock of crayons, stickers, glue, child friendly scissors with which he loves to experiment. He keeps making stuffs and showing me and my hubby his creations of which some are superb and some we are unable to understand what he has made but his energy describing it, just makes our  day. He keeps talking while being creative making him happy and his mom content.

I have been grown listening that one should “speak less and listen more”. But I know each kid is unique in himself and so are his qualities. We as parents should never show discouragements and frustration on their behavioral aspects and should devise ways to up bring and carve their strong qualities in the best way possible.

Our actions are their reactions.

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To parent a kid is not a child’s play!! (“Bachoon Ko Bada Karna;Bachoon Ka Khel Nahin”)

I was in a complete different mindset before being a Mom myself. Whenever a friend of mine used to crib about how difficult it is to handle a baby, I used to wonder – “Is it really so”? How can such a cute little creature make her say so.To be true, I have never been with babies 24*7 anytime before. So, I almost had no idea about how difficult these little creatures can be.

Today I can very well relate to every mom’s saga and levels of difficulty. The day she gets new name “MOM” to herself she is into the game where crossing each level gives immense pleasure unaware of problems in stock ahead. I am sure every mother is passing/passed through these stages with intensities low or high.

It’s rightly said: “To parent a kid is not a kids play” (“Bachoon ka Khel nahin”). I am trying to list my experiences which I feel every mom will agree upon!!

Feeding:

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The word “Feeding” sounds so easy. ” Isn’t it? Ask any Mom and take my words answer will mostly be No! it’s absolutely not at all easy to feed babies/toddlers.!To put each morsel into his/her mouth you need to device a tactic to lure them to take it. One moment you are a clown while other moment you are a storyteller. When I feed my brat I myself wonder as what crap stories am I weaving and faces I am making to develop my brat’s interest to eat food.

Dressing:

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Above picture depicts the saga of a toddler. I must say, today’s kids are very smart. When I try to dress my three year old brat he is interested to wear that dress only which I don’t intend him to wear. Now, the drama starts; I try to make him interested by drawing his attention to color, cartoons,buttons, zip etc anything which works to make him interested. Sometimes this ordeal is done in five minutes or can get extended to one hour also. Depends on his mood. Tired Mom!!

Sleeping:

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Another task is to make a baby sleep. You must be wondering why am I saying task to each and everything. It’s actually a task for Moms because one level achieved is a work done. Now making a baby sleep is another task as each kid has it’s own way to sleep. Kids won’t doze off on their own, moms need to drag them and calm them off keeping all distractions at bay to help them sleep. So, its task to distract them, calm them and then help them doze off. Each activity is a stage and you can’t imagine how long can it take.

There are many other instances which am sure each parent must be experiencing and will vouch it saying “Bachoon ka Khel nahin”

So aptly said by Mr. Amitaabh Bachchan in this ad of firstcry.com Shopping for a kid #BachoonKaKhelNahin. Check his link below:

I love watching this ad, as its really difficult to decide what to buy and what not while shopping for a kid. There are loads of options available and you just can’t resist choosing many but when it comes to buying one, it’s rightly said “Bachoon Ka Khel Nahin”. Difficult to zero in, I bet!

Would be really excited to listen from all Moms about their experiences.

Stay connected and keep sharing your thoughts!! Would love to know.

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Are you worried that your child is a picky eater? Here are five ways to turn his interest towards food:

I have struggled to feed my baby since the day I weaned him. The journey was till date a roller coaster ride in which many days were bumpy and to maintain balance some days were fine. I always tried to figure out ways, how to feed a picky eater (as I felt mine was). Whenever, I saw my friend’s kid eating on his own peacefully, I used to admire and think within, why is it not so with my brat. While, on the other hand, if I used to see another kid who used to throw tantrums every time he was asked to eat, I used to thank God saying at least mine is not so. So, you see I was in mid-way where my kid used to taste food but refused to eat further, sending me in dilemma as, “how to make him eat”.

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After lot of discussions with mothers and research over net, I now seem to have figured out what we parents need to do and behave while feeding a kid.

Don’t force him to eat:

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We mothers always have a tendency to worry that my child has not eaten well. He was supposed to complete this bowl of porridge but it’s still half bowl left in it. This worry sends jitters to her and she is always in kitchen trying to figure out and cooking dish thinking, might be he will like this. Not even an hour has passed and she is again after the kid trying to lure him to eat. As usual, he just denies tasting a bite or tastes it and denies. This cycle keeps on going making both kid and mom tired of this eating drama. Mom is tired thinking how to make his child full and the kid is tired of seeing his mom after him with a plate of food. I too had done this drama with my Brat and have seen his dislike towards food.

Finally one day, I gave up and let him play without annoying him with my food saga. To my surprise he came running to me and started eating from my plate. It was dinner time and I was happy to see him eating contently. This day he ate the portion size I always wanted him to eat. That day I learnt and promised myself that “I will never force him to eat

Let him eat his way:

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My hubby dislikes eating in a messy way. While feeding brat, there were continuous lectures as don’t spill food, don’t wipe your dirty hands on your T shirt, don’t put your hands in gravy etc. The end result, “Brat refused to eat after three or four bite” and then it’s mom who needs to figure out how to make him eat.

I then one day gave him food he wanted on his plate and let him play with it. After half an hour of spilling and playing with food it was half eaten. Irrespective it was half wasted and half eaten, I was happy with the fact that he ate it all by himself. Today, he prefers eating on his own from our plate without spilling food on the floor.

Don’t fuss over if he don’t eat healthy:

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I always wanted my kid to eat healthy with all nutrients and vitamins into it. Who doesn’t wants so but? My brat loves to eat rice with dollop of ghee and sugar into it. He just relishes the taste of it. But I wanted him to eat rice, daal and sabji (cooked vegetable) for which he was absolutely uninterested. I then reasoned deep within myself as how will I feel, if I am forced to eat what I don’t like. I stopped bugging him to eat it my way, rather I let him choose his likes and tastes and to my surprise he now eats all veggies when he likes. Yes, this definitely took time but today I can say my kid happily eats everything. So, I concluded that ” It’s better to eat wrong food with right approach, while eating right food with wrong approach.

Respect his taste and cook healthy:

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My challenge now was to cook things which are healthy and tasty enough to stimulate taste buds of my brat so he is tempted to eat it. I started giving him paneer (rather than milk), boiled corn pellets salad, stuffed triangle parathas, eggs etc I tried to figure out things he disliked and would sneak it in his food in such a way that he didnt realised it and ate it happily.

Make meal time fun:

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I used to be after my brat to eat his food before we (me and my hubby) sat to have ours. Firstly, making him eat was a task, on which I was always unsuccessful. He used to be tempted to eat, only when we were eating together and used to splash his hands over our plate. I then changed my way of feeding him and started laying three plates. I noticed a change, brat started eating on his own and specially more like his dad. He just loved copying his dad in all his ways.

I then realized that feeding is not a task and you don’t need to allocate time to make him eat. We don’t do it for ourselves neither our parents did for us. Meal times should be a family time when all of us sit, eat, talk and enjoy. This habit needs to be imbibed in the child right from the beginning.

I have seen a change myself and can you. Just change your perspective and let the kid within you bloom again with your little one.

Seeing your child playing, sleeping, laughing satisfies us but “The biggest satisfaction” is when we see him eating happily and enjoying his food.

Do let me know what you feel about it?

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Worried Mom!

Yesterday was a tough day for me. My happy school-going brat was in a real bad mood. He was consistently saying “NO I don’t want to go to school” which he loves going. Many questions started drifting in my mind. Considering the rise in child abuse, child bullying, and child harassment cases has made me more scared. Being a concerned Mom, I was trying my ways, to figure out, as what is actually disturbing him.

My Brat loves to interact with people, makes and enjoy with friends and he don’t have stranger anxiety too. His constant denial towards school raised my worry. I tried to figure out by asking a lot of questions to him. After juggling with him for more than an hour he said ‘he do not like going in school bus.’ He likes being in school but do not like to go by bus there. Ah! So bus is the problem, but how can that be when he used to love going by bus. He told me, he likes going to school but will go in school bus, if Mamma comes along. I somehow persuaded him to ride the bus and told him that Mommy is there to look after him. On my assurance he agreed, but a mother into me got really disturbed.

I immediately took action and inquired with attendant in the bus but she said that he is perfectly fine when she is around. This statement worried me as what does she means by “around”. Isn’t she supposed to look after kids and make sure all are safe from any acts especially “little kids”. On inquiring as why does he cry, she said “May be like this only.” Not satisfied by her answer, I asked a girl (who goes in same school bus) about it and then she narrated about the ordeal my kid is exposed. Senior boys of Grade VII and VIII are trying to scare my kid by making weird faces, cracks joke and laughs on him. Such an indecent behavior towards a kid who is just around three years old!!

I called and narrated the entire scene to his school authority and they assured me that entire issue will be looked into. A concern was there in the voice of his teacher and she was wondering as how can senior boys (who are highly sensitized towards young kids) behave this way?

One habit I have maintained since first day my Brat started to go to school was to discuss about what he does in school. This helps me to understand what he likes and do not like about his school. Till date he enjoys being at school and only bus was the problem.

The problem is now resolved and I hope that his school authorities will now be stricter towards such indecent behavior of senior kids.

It’s a well-known fact that kids are very sensitive and a slight disrespect towards their identity disturbs them. I am writing this post to request everyone, don’t take any incident narrated by your child lightly. Howsoever busy you are, take out time to listen and play with your kids, and monitor their behavior and moods. Your child will be more comfortable and cosy in your company than anyone else.

We should always be all ears and eyes on whatever our kid wants to confess.

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My Learning Curve of Motherhood!!

I didn’t know what being a Mom meant, till I turned one. For me, motherhood was simple. You become pregnant, give birth to a child and then take care of it. That’s it! I have never thought that it’s a big change which happens in lifetime of a couple. Actual journey of your life begins, when parenthood starts. You are just lovebirds, enjoying your married life, till you step into this journey.

My journey started almost three years back. Time took a 360 degree turn, as soon as my little boy was born. Like many other woman, I was also very new to this Mommy thing.

I have learnt many things being a mother and would like to share here with you all.

  • Every child is different and so is your’s. You should never compare your child with other ones. You will always be tempted to see a child eating food all by him/her self while yours is yet to learn it. A child of your friend sleeps on his own, while yours makes you pick him up and keep rocking till he/she falls asleep. You must have read in many books, or learnt from advice of well learned moms about child’s milestone but never bother to stick to it, as sooner or later your child will achieve it. Just let him/her be him (her) self.
  • You need to “Trust yourself” in this journey of motherhood. There are many things which will happen for the first time in your life, be it your child’s weaning time, teething time, schooling time whatever. Just make sure you go with the flow. Every day is a new day in your life as well in your child’s life. Both of you are learning to live. He is learning new things from you and you are learning how to teach him/her. Isn’t this a wonderful experience? I know there is many ups and down in this journey, but once you accomplish it, no other feeling could beat the joy.
  • You need to be patient in dealing with your child. Children have a tendency to test patience of their parents every other second. They will challenge you, frustrate you, show anger on you, annoy you and can make you feel disappointed at public places. You need to deal all these things with patience. There are hard ways of making them understand your point, but then you will not be able to make them realize as what was wrong in their act. I am not saying that don’t be hard on them or don’t roll your eyes over them, but you need to decide what is good or bad behavior.
  • You are an Idol for your child. My brat is about to turn three years old but I have found him copying each and every act of us. I have had a habit of throwing clothes on bed with a thought that I will arrange it later, and have noticed my three-year doing the same. He even speaks in same way I talk to him. He scolds me also in same way as I do, rolling eyes on me. He copies his Dad also in all aspects. He tries to wrap towel around himself, the way his dad does to him. Every child has a feeling that his parents are the best. Some children say this, some may not, but deep within them you will find them admiring you. To stand to their expectations, you need to watch yourself every time. To discipline your child, you need to be “DISCIPLINED” first.

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To learn about Motherhood, you need to experience it. Every other person can advice you on this topic but as “Each child is different, so is his Mother”.